Dad is wondering how much truth there is in this presentation by Connie Podesta.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDeHCh7dHD4
Dad believes that he would do all he can to make me and Joshua happy. However, Connie rationalised that it is a mistake to do things to fill happiness. Joshua at times would lament that he is bored. However, Connie shared that this cry of boredom could be dangerous. And she does make sense. Daddy would like you to share your views after watching this video. Do you agree/ disagree/ to what extent do you think its true?
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John,
I watched Connie P with my youngest daughter who is in her 20s.
She observed and agreed that our wish for her to be happy had given her that bag of machine guns.. the opportunity to use it as part of her toolkit for getting her own way. Then she spotted a number of self-help vids on You Tube and wished to see if any would be useful in her relationship with her boyfriend and I lost her to her own wishes to expand her thinking. I'm not sure what that proves.
But as a parent and looking back I observe things now blessed with some experience. The basic questions could be:
1. what were your parents like? there's a tendency for each generation to aim to break the mould, to be better than their parents. But what we learn from our parents formed us and we would have to work hard, fighting against the odds and the circumstances that surround us to be anything other than what our genes decree.
2. what opportunities are there for you and your kids? This makes a difference and we tend to mould our thinking around what we inherit in the way of opportunity
3. if you are happy then it's likely that they will be happy - assuming good health and all those other things. However, we don't need to emphasise happiness if we can demonstrate it whilst we teach...and it's possible to be too clever and to fail to get the point over. Kids don't need to understand the framework we use when bringing them up - they just need to experience love and security and this will facilitate their learning
4. Don't 'close up the shop' and become insular- peer pressure will get your kids some time so they need to be in the mix, know how to relate, where to look to find and seek those better opportunities .. but you can help them find those opportunities and protect and support them whilst they safely experience life..that is the best you can give.
Finally..best advise I ever had...
5. BE WISE. Wisdom will rub off..set a good example.
We learn best from their mistakes...at least I have. We, all of us, can only do what we think best as parents and in life.
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